So you want to create more money in your bank account, connect with dreamy ideal clients, find your soul mate, and generally have more of everything else that brings you joy, peace and fulfillment? Here are the 4 steps on how to end self -sabotage and finally get what you want.
It wasn’t a desperate kind of yes, but a yes of deep understanding that the me that felt broken and beat down at a soul level and who had made the decisions that got me into the mess I was in wouldn’t be the me that could turn things around unless I got some help. Like, A LOT of help.
Maybe it was the hope that these programs represented for me that pushed me to the back of the room where I plunked down my credit cards to pay for the programs.
I literally felt like throwing up, I was so scared....
Imagine having a private beach-front, 7-casita retreat home + yoga room with staff of 5 and a private chef on one of Thailand’s premier vacation destinations… all for your family’s vacation.
Sounds dreamy, doesn’t it?
Wouldn’t you love to manifest something like that for yourself? Yeah, I wanted to, too.
And so I did. :-) Read on or watch the video to learn how I did it and you can, too.
Have you ever been faced with making a tough choice and felt overwhelmed by the process of simply making a decision?
Or not clear on which path is the “right” one for you now?
One of the biggest blocks to making a decision is the fear of making the wrong one. We’re afraid a decision that we make is going to somehow turn into Armageddon for our lives and it’s going to be the worst decision we’ve ever made. Then we’d have to deal with not only the terrible consequences but feeling ashamed and embarrassed that we made the “wrong” choice.
And that’s exactly what held me back for a long time… until I decided not to let it anymore.
Here are the steps that help me get unstuck and confidently move forward with the right decision for me.
Do you ever feel like you’re not enough? As an entrepreneur, as a parent, as a person?
That used to be one of my biggest struggles. What held me back from really putting myself out there as an entrepreneur and taking the steps to make myself visible was that I felt like I didn’t have enough to say. I struggled with feeling like my ideas weren’t good enough or original enough to share. And, I often second-guessed myself and wondered if people would actually find value in what I say and how I help them.
Then I called B.S. on myself. When I reached the point that my desire to help others was stronger than my fear of what others would think, I stepped into fully owning my value, no matter what. It's time you did that, too.
With all the negative events happening in the world right now, it can be easy to feel like we can’t do anything about it, but nothing can be farther from the truth. We as entrepreneurs can do so much to make a change in the world.
Not only can you make an impact through the specific work you do, you can be a source of inspiration and empowerment. Frankly, right now, the world needs a lot more of that. The world needs a lot of light and as much light as possible.
How, specifically, can you make a positive influence on the world through your business? Here are some steps to get you started.
You seem to be doing everything right. You put in long hours, you work hard and you take action, but things aren’t happening like you want them to.
If you’re an entrepreneur, maybe you’re just not booking enough clients or bringing in enough money, so you’re struggling to stay in business. Or maybe you’ve been begging the Universe to send you a different job opportunity because you can’t stand the one you currently have, but for the life of you, you can’t find anything that you’d actually be excited to do.
When you’re getting a bunch of what you don’t want, how can you turn it around and start manifesting more of what you want? Here’s what you need to do to start doing it now.
The boat approached a small, emerald island jutting out of deep blue waters and we finally got a glimpse of our paradise for the next 7 days. The surroundings were surreal - so stunningly beautiful that they seemed plucked out of a movie (indeed they were… the movie The Beach was filmed in the area).
Then we saw it... Tucked into a small cove flanked by soaring limestone cliffs was the resort where our beachfront bungalow awaited us on Lagen Island in the Philippines. My heart leapt in my chest with excitement!
Finally… I could relax and let all of the stress of the past weeks go. We’d arrived at the the family vacation destination of our dreams despite all of the hurdles life had been throwing at us, all of which come with the territory when you’re a parent: the seemingly endless doctors visits and countless sleepless nights when your child is sick. Being able to go on this vacation at all was a true gift... one I could've easily robbed myself of if I hadn't shifted my perspective.
When I was in 8th grade, I developed a stomach ulcer. I’m not sure exactly when I started feeling the need to prove myself, but that kind of level of performance stress became my norm. I heaped mountains of pressure on myself. I was always striving, always trying to prove my worth through external validation. And yet no amount of achievement would snuff out that nagging feeling that I needed to do more and somehow be more... and it has really cost me a lot in my life. If you’ve been waiting for permission to accept all parts of you – the good, the bad and the ugly – and trust that you are enough right now, exactly as you are, and don’t need to be anything more to lead the kind of life you’ve dreamed about… this is it.
Before you head out to your next seminar, workshop or retreat, you’ll want to use the strategies below to help you maximize the results you get while you’re there. Based on my insights from over a decade of being on both sides of the live event fence as both an attendee and producer of live events, here are my 10 Smart Strategies for Getting the Most from Live Events.
Guys, I’m here to tell you, size ALWAYS matters! Just to clarify, I’m talking about the passionate and purposeful “why” for being in business and the “why” that drives you to go after your dreams… as in, “Why Size” Matters. (wink)
Why do big, passionate and purposeful whys matter so much? Your “whys” play a major role in influencing whether your business thrives or fails and whether as an enterprising entrepreneur you persevere or give up. Passionate and purposeful why represent your emotional drivers, which are always more powerful than logical drivers. When you have an emotional attachment to a process or an outcome, you’re much more likely to go the extra mile and not only get to the finish line but run through it with gusto.
Contrary to the message of conformity that is often touted in our society (you should look like this or act a certain way for people to like you), letting your genuine character shine will help you stand out in an ocean of sameness and connect with those people who want exactly what you have to offer.
Authenticity begins with bringing your life in alignment with your values. A disconnect between your values and how you show up in life will quickly communicate inauthenticity to those around you and erode your inner confidence. I’ve outlined a quick exercise that can help you get started on the path of embracing your uniqueness and shouting it out to the world.
Call it Higher Self, your Inner Guide, Divine Guidance, Angels, Spirit, God or whatever you will, but I believe we do receive spirit-centered guidance that speaks to us through inner wisdom and connection to the universal flow of energy. It may show up as a “strange coincidence”, a hint, a feeling, or simply a “knowing”. The more you can train yourself to notice and pay attention to guidance, the more your life will seem to flow along easily with fortunate and happy synchronicities lighting a path for you to follow.
Tapping into and listening to that wisdom is truly invaluable – not only will your life be flow along with less effort and stress, you can spare yourself a lot of suffering and life lessons learned the hard way.
Do you ever feel like every time you gain momentum in your business, life or relationships that you hit a brick wall? That for every two steps forward you take one (or maybe three) back?
You’ve got a problem – a big problem that will keep you stuck where you are - unless you do something about it. It’s what Gay Hendricks calls the Upper Limit Problem in his fantastic book The Big Leap – Conquer Your Fear and Take Life to the Next Level.
The Five Why’s is a process originally developed by Sakichi Toyoda of Toyota Motor Corporation to get to the root cause of a problem and identify the process that had failed (in his case, in the manufacturing of Toyota vehicles). I have tweaked the Five Why’s process to help me uncover hidden limiting beliefs, get to the root cause of being stuck in an area of my life or business and to help me identify my ideal clients.